How to Find a Narcissistic Abuse Support Group

Joining a narcissistic abuse support group can be helpful if you have experienced narcissistic abuse from someone in your life. Such groups offer emotional support, empathy, and information that can help you understand what you've experienced.

First things first: Abuse is never your fault. Every individual deserves the right to have a healthy, safe, and supportive relationship, and no one should have that right violated.

If you are in an abusive relationship or have been in one in the past, getting help healing is extremely important. It isn’t uncommon for folks to be unaware of the various types of abuse.

Abuse isn’t only physical harm that leaves bruises and scars. It can also be emotional and psychological abuse that can leave you feeling scared, unsure of yourself, and completely dependent on your abuser. 

What Is Narcissistic Abuse?

Narcissistic abuse is a form of emotional and psychological abuse that utilizes manipulation, coercion, scare tactics, and control. This abuse can have devastating effects on the survivor’s relationships, finances, and self-image.

Narcissism is a term that is thrown around freely in our society, but it is important that both narcissistic traits and NPD are understood when identifying narcissistic abuse.

First, narcissistic traits are more than someone who is simply obsessed with themselves and is power-hungry. Narcissistic traits refer to some of the traits of NPD, such as lacking empathy, requiring those around them to praise them, and having an inflated sense of self.

Someone with NPD exhibits all those traits, amongst others, to the point of impairing their interpersonal relationships. 

The Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissistic abuse is covert and hard to spot at times. However, there is a cycle of abuse particular to narcissistic abuse in romantic relationships. Those with narcissistic traits tend to seek out sensitive and empathic individuals. 

Early Stages

The early stages of a relationship where narcissistic abuse is present can seem like a fairy tale, with the narcissistic person lavishing the survivor with praise, gifts, adoration, and grand plans for the future.

Middle Stage

After the early stage of over-the-top romance, the emotional abuse will begin to present itself through deprecating language, humiliation, and dismissive communication that aims to chip away at the survivor’s self-esteem.

Final Stage

The final stage of narcissistic abuse is characterized by a complete withdrawal from the partner. The abuser may begin to engage in infidelity, spread lies to the survivor’s loved ones, cut all contact, or even gaslight the survivor.

Seeking a Support for Narcissistic Abuse

Emotional abuse can have devastating effects. Research has shown that people who experience emotional abuse in childhood are more likely to experience anxiety, stress, depression, and neuroticism in adulthood.

Social media can be the first place a survivor finds information that helps them make sense of the abuse they just experienced.

Uncovering information about narcissistic abuse can be helpful for those who are grappling with accepting and believing their lived experiences after being fed lies by their abuser. It can also help survivors realize the abuse never was and never will be their fault.

Aside from digital support, social support is very important. A huge component of narcissistic abuse is complete isolation. When survivors realize they aren’t alone upon hearing others share about what they’ve overcome, they can begin to realize they aren’t alone and healing is possible. 

What to Expect from a Narcissistic Abuse Support Group

A narcissistic abuse support group is a safe space where survivors come together to support each other while they heal from the abuse they’ve been subjected to.

You can expect a space where you will be heard, validated, and supported by others who have survived experiences similar to yours. These support groups are great additions to psychotherapy and can end up being an integral part of your healing journey.

How to Find a Narcissistic Abuse Support Group

There are multiple ways to find a narcissistic abuse support group.

Talk to a Mental Health Provider

First, you can reach out to a mental health provider and ask them for referrals for any narcissistic abuse support groups near you. They are likely to have some information to share with you, and in the rare event they don’t, they can point you in the right direction.

Domestic Violence Centers

Domestic violence centers typically run support groups for survivors of intimate partner violence (IPV) and narcissistic abuse qualifies as a form of IPV.

Family Support Groups

It isn't uncommon for those experiencing NPD and narcissistic traits to also have addiction issues and it is worth assessing if the perpetrator of abuse suffers from addiction. If so, Al-Anon, the 12-step program for friends and family of alcoholics, may be a good fit for you.

While Al-Anon isn't specifically for narcissistic abuse survivors, if your abuser is an has an addiction, it may be the support you're looking for.

Resources for Narcissistic Abuse

Below are other resources that may be helpful to you:

• National Domestic Violence Hotline: This organization offers a hotline, textline, and online chat for those seeking support in unsafe relationships. They also have a tool on their website that can help you find resources, including support groups, in your area.
• Help Within Reach: Founded by therapist Pamela Raphael, Help Within Reach offers a variety of narcissistic abuse support groups. The groups are conducted virtually and are open to anyone regardless of location.
• I Believe Your Abuse: I Believe Your Abuse is an online guide to recovery from narcissistic abuse. They offer a directory of therapy and support group resources organized by state.

Takeaway

First and foremost, abuse is never your fault. Part of the toxicity of narcissistic abuse is how it can scramble one's sense of reality. Seeking support from your community, peers, and mental health professionals can be of great support in beginning to recover from abuse and building healthy relationships. Recovering from the impacts of narcissistic abuse can be lonely, frustrating, and challenging, but healing is absolutely possible.