An Overview of Social Skills Training

Social skills training (SST) is a type of behavioral therapy used to improve social skills in people with mental disorders or developmental disabilities. SST may be used by teachers, therapists, or other professionals to help those with anxiety disorders, mood disorders, personality disorders, and other diagnoses. 

It is delivered either individually or in a group format, usually once or twice a week, and is often used as one component of a combined treatment program.

Social Skills Training and SAD

Social anxiety can have an impact on social skills in a variety of ways. People with social anxiety disorder (SAD) are less likely to engage in social interactions, giving them less opportunity to build skills and gain confidence.

The Anxiety and Depression Association of American notes that people with social anxiety disorder don't necessarily lack social skills. Instead, they tend to get so overwhelmed with their anxiety that they have problems utilizing their skills. 

SAD can also directly impact social behavior regardless of skill level. For example, you may know that eye contact is important but feel unable to maintain it during a conversation because of fear.

SST has been shown to be effective in improving social skills for those with SAD regardless of the social issue. If there is a skills deficit, you can learn how to better manage social interactions.

If social anxiety is masking your social ability, practice and exposure during SST can help improve your confidence and self-esteem and reduce your anxiety about social situations. For those with social anxiety disorder, SST is often used in combination with other treatments such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) or medication.

Social Skills Training Techniques

SST generally begins with an assessment of your specific skill deficits and impairments. Your therapist may ask you which social interactions you find the most challenging or which skills you feel could be improved. The goal of this process is to identify the best targets for social skills training for your particular situation.

A therapist may describe a particular skill, explain how to carry it out, and model the behavior. Complex behaviors like how to carry on a conversation may be broken down into smaller pieces such as introducing yourself, making small talk, and leaving a conversation. Therapists will also discuss both verbal and nonverbal behaviors.

Research and Evidence 

Research on the use of SST in treating SAD shows that it is effective whether executed alone or with another form of treatment. SST has also been shown to increase the results of group CBT for SAD. 

In general, SST is most effective when used as part of a comprehensive treatment program involving multiple components. Therefore, if you have severe social anxiety, social skills training may be helpful for you—both for your social skills and anxiety about social situations.

Areas of Development

Social skills are the building blocks of social interaction. If you have SAD, you may have missed out on developing some of these important skills. However, you can always learn them no matter your age. 

Being Assertive

Assertiveness helps you relate to others in a way that balances the needs of everyone. If you have a tendency to defer to others, it can feel uncomfortable when you first start asserting yourself. However, in the long run, assertiveness will help to reduce anxiety and make both you and the people around you more comfortable.

Communicating Non-Verbally

Nonverbal communication, also known as body language, plays a large role in communication. People with social anxiety disorder tend to have "closed" body language that signals to others that you are unapproachable or unfriendly. While this is a natural result of anxiety, it is possible to work on having more open and friendly nonverbal behaviors.

Communicating Verbally

Verbal communication is another skill. The art of conversation may seem like a puzzle if you have social anxiety disorder. You probably have trouble knowing what to say or feel uncomfortable talking about yourself. But, conversations are foundational to building relationships and knowing how to better navigate them will help you get acquainted with those around you.

Making Introductions

Introductions are a way of making people feel comfortable. Whether you are called upon to make introductions or you are being introduced, it is important to know the rules of these social encounters. Knowing how to confidently make introductions is a very useful social skill.

Practicing Active Listening

Active listening involves paying attention, asking questions, and reflecting on what someone says. When you practice active listening, the other person in the conversation feels heard. If you are coping with SAD, practicing active listening may actually help you focus more on others and less on yourself. 

Overcoming Telephone Phobia

While the telephone is part of communication, it has its own peculiarities that can make it difficult for those with a social anxiety disorder. You might be afraid to answer the phone, make calls, or even record a voice greeting.

If you have a phobia of using the phone, there are a number of tips and tricks that you can use to overcome your fear. In addition, you can practice exposure therapy on your own to gradually desensitize yourself to using the phone.

Accepting and Giving Compliments

If you live with SAD, you probably have trouble gracefully accepting compliments and may not give compliments easily. Learning these two social skills is important. Compliments are a way of initiating and deepening relationships. They are also great conversation starters and a good way to show appreciation for others.

Problems With Social Skills Training

While it was once believed that people with autism and other forms of neurodivergence needed to learn social skills, this view is outdated. This approach is not neurodiversity-affirming and tries to impose neurotypical standards on people who are not neurotypical. 

People with autism approach social interactions differently because of how their brains process information, not because they lack social skills. Their interpersonal style may differ from that of a neurotypical person, but that does not mean that it needs to be changed.

Alternatives to social skills training include:

• Educating people about autism and other forms of neurodiversity
• Listening to the lived experiences of neurodivergent people
• Connecting neurodivergent people to supportive communities
• Supporting other forms of communication and providing alternatives 

While social skills training may be helpful for people who struggle with problems like social anxiety or awkwardness caused by a lack of social experience, it is essential to recognize that it is not suitable for everyone.

Social anxiety disorder can co-occur with forms of neurodivergence, such as autism and attention-deficit activity disorder (ADHD). The challenges of managing such conditions in a neurotypical society may contribute to feelings of social anxiety.

Keep in Mind

Building and improving upon your social skills is an important component of treatment for social anxiety disorder and is crucial to better negotiating social situations. If you find yourself severely lacking social skills, talk with your treatment professional about training or other methods for improving your abilities.

If you have not yet been diagnosed with SAD, the first step is to visit your doctor. From there, you can work together to design a treatment plan that meets your specific needs.